That Fit Mum – Blog

Ten years…120 months…521 weeks…3652 days 87,648 hours… 5258880 minutes…and still counting…that’s how long we have shared our everything, shared a last name, shared an address, shared a bed, shared our hopes and dreams and so much more than that.

It seems like yesterday only I walked down the aisle with my man in blue (albeit that day he was in steel grey).

And heartily saying it, today we complete a decade of our precious wedlock but we both just can’t believe it and i can proudly say that it doesn’t stink at all!!

We are a love story, nothing but a sweet love story which is absolutely non-perishable.

These 10 beautiful years of love, fights, drama and concoction of all that jazz make me fall in love with him all over again but sometimes hate too.

It’s his patience and my shenanigans, his sanity and my insanity, his chevlry and my hotness has what kept us together and actually vice-versa too has kept us together.(wink)

The only most sane decision of my life was to marry him I believe(though not very sure what he feels about it ?) and today I feel more than grateful that we have 10 years worth memories and more than that love to cherish to the hilt.

After 10 Years , I can easily say I still love my husband. He is a generous, kind, smart and courageous man. I love that about him. Sometimes, well, a lot of times, he irritates me beyond words. Some days, I don’t want to even look his way.

And some days, I really like the way he smiles, I like his patience and quiet nature. I like his innate goodness. I like his steadfast compassion. I like that he has deep integrity. I like the way he dances,the way he partner workouts with me, the way he drives, the way he looks in his uniform, the way he kisses, I like the way he cooks (oh sorry, that he never does) lolz.

All in all I can’t imagine a life without him by my side.

It’s great to like whom you love so much.

Isn’t it?!?

At the end of the day, marriage, for me, has been a kaleidoscopic ride of a lifetime. Filled with good and rotten and everything in between.

Not that these ten years made me do any phd on a happy marriage but yes I would love to share the 10 lessons I have learnt in these 10 years.

1. It is important to reassure your spouse of your affection for her/him even as both of you age. Always kiss and say love you, goodnight to each other no matter how bad your day went. It feels good to hear “I love you” everyday from someone you love the most. Keep your anger aside just for a wee bit and wish each other goodnight.

2. My two cents’ worth having a baby changes your life for good. The bond gets truly stronger. Go make babies?

3. Remember no marriage stays perfect 24/7. Everyone in their wedlock goes through a lot of ups and downs and that’s totally fine. I’ve learned that these are the times I grew to know my husband on a deeper level. I learned valuable lessons when things weren’t going good for us. Never ever compare your bond with anyone else’s. People naturally put the best parts of their lives out there for everyone to see. No one has a “perfect” life or a “perfect” marriage

4. Giving space to each other is a must thing. This distance will not only recharge you both but will also bring you closer. Take a vacation alone, follow your passion, take out time for yourself; marriage doesn’t mean staying glued up to each other. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.. remember?!?!?

5. Communication and compassion both are important in a relationship. Talk to your significant other about all your feelings and fears and fantasies and excitements and hurdles and plans and everything. Treat them the way you want to be treated. Respect his decisions and value his looks, love, time and money.

6. What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.. don’t share your marriage with anyone. It’s your life, something that u both share, no one can fathom what’s it like for you both.

7. A date night once in a month is a must and the best thingy is that we both agree on that. Especially after kids it’s a thingy that u truly need to rekindle it all. Once a year, Plan a vacay without kids; even a daycation makes a bonding starstudded in terms of love and affection.

8. Stop counting mistakes rather appreciate eachother for their efforts and concerns. If you are so inclined, keep score of all the positive things your partner does in a day and then thank them. Hopefully they’ll get the hint and do the same for you.

9. Yes, sex is a vital part of your bond with him. Agree or not, it is something that you uniquely share with your spouse, and not with anyone else.

Also, Having a good sex life after kids is as important as before.

You will have to be deliberate in protecting your sex life from falling by the wayside of a busy family life post kids.

Coz this will lead to more affection in your relationship.hands down!

10. All in all, love fills those cracks!

Anything in the world won’t keep your marriage strong if it lacks love. In the end, love conquers it all. Love each other to the moon and stars and all other planets and back!!

On this note..

Love you to bits Gulz?

A decade of Happy togetherness to us and clink on umpteen more to come..

Cheers to this byoot love story and life that we made for us..

You are my home; wherever I go whatever I do, I’ll always find that comfort in your arms only.

Xoxo!

❤️?

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